After quite a bit of research with my chica’s who had all purchased cell phones for their children, then later regretted it… I put together a contract for my son who let me say, I think was willing to be shipped off to Siberia in return for a phone. That mindset of uber begging put me in a unique position of calling the shots, which as the parent, I should be in that position ALL. THE. TIME. However, re-surfacing my power, I had him AGREE to the following contract. FEEL FREE to use this, modify it and/or ditch it if you want and start over.

If you are impressed with this contract, you can thank my ladies in the comment section and please share it with your friends.

If there is any perceived repetition it is only because I was making sure there were no loopholes. Five weeks into this contract now, as of this writing, and its been pretty good. He has lost cell privileges  a few times but not really related to breaking any of these rules…. oh wait, no that is incorrect, sneaking peeks and texts after 1030pm (really it was 1130pm), yes that has resulted in a 24 hr extrapolation (a few times)… and yes that is exactly what it felt like I was doing at the time: ex-trap-olating.

So here goes:

I, (my childs name) understand that this (brand) Phone does not belong to me. I understand that at any time this phone may be taken away from me.

The following are only SOME of the reasons why this may occur:

-my school grades are falling or if I use this phone inappropriately in class ie: texting while teacher is speaking, using it to cheat etc.
-i am isolating myself away from my family ie: refuse to give eye contact when spoken to, prefer to be alone texting or talking rather than participate in family activities
-it is a weeknight and I know that I must give up the cell phone during the school year sunday- thursday from 10:30pm-8am, unless there is a PA day in which case these days of the week may change
-I understand that there will be some more freedom in the summer with regards to usage however it is at my parents discretion what those new times will be without argument.
-I bully someone using this phone
-I hang up on my parents or brother or refuse to communicate with them
-I don’t complete my chores
-I am rude
-I refuse to cooperate with any member of my family
-I refuse to help out with the dog

-I take a photo of myself ‘undressed’ or someone else ‘undressed’ or in a compromising position.
-if I text during any meal, I understand I will loose the cell phone for the rest of that day, and all information on that phone will be inaccessible to me, including friend meet ups etc.

I understand that this plan has 150 minutes of call time, and if I exceed that time and get charged extra charges I am responsible for those charges.

I understand this phone is not waterproof and will therefore cease to work if it gets wet. I understand I will be responsible for replacing this phone at my expense.

I understand that using this phone is a privilege, not a right.

I understand that none of these rules apply to my parents. They are free to do any of the above and I will not question them. I understand that my parents may modify these rules, or add to them at any time and I will not argue or I risk losing access to this phone that I do not own.

By responding to this email stating I AGREE, I accept these terms which have been laid out.

Thanks for reading.


  1. ladyestrogen says:

    I laughed a few times, but because all those things happen with teens & cell phones.
    “I understand that none of these rules apply to my parents” Lololol. Damn right 😉
    Good luck!

  2. That is a very funny post Stace — but you are kidding right??

    Or…Why not – have teen save money for the purchase of their own phone and plan – they also buy $7 month insurance that covers any damage (water included– yup he took it swimming one sunny afternoon 🙂
    — and they learn throughout life that it is better to be nice, engaged, young people because that is the way the world works better.
    No phone cops needed. Instead they play by the rules because really it is the right thing to do and not because they will get punished.
    No reward and punishment scenario. And it doesn’t turn you in to a nag.
    The phone is just the next thing in their life that means alot to them – like their former action figure -or xbox – next it will be the car.
    And why don’t we speed in cars– because we will get a ticket or because it is unsafe? Calm conversations around expectations and responsibilities eventually do sink in. I have never punished or grounded – I don’t like the way that makes me feel (tried it once – scared the hell out of me). And as offspring would say –what upsets them most is when they are sat down – and parents are disappointed with their behaviour or?…. and they know that we are right —
    Don’t use it as another way to have power over them. Unfortunately those phones mean alot to the youth of today ~~

  3. Hillary Hall says:

    LOL this is what lies ahead for me… at the moment, mia only wants to call barbie on her pretend cell phone 🙂 occasionally she calls minnie mouse too mac made a cell phone out of paper this weekend that he folded and coloured with crayon and said i could cut out small messages for him and leave them outside his door for him to stick inside his phone 🙂 you could add that as the final insult to jack’s contract…you will have to make your own phone out of paper and crayons, ha ha


  4. Marc says:

    Sounds like my contract with Telus

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